​Demure and Mindful Bedroom Tips

The very demure, very mindful TikTok trend isn't just about fashion, makeup, and diet. It can be applied to any aspect of your life - and that includes your bedroom and your bedtime routine.

Did you know that a demure and mindful approach to bedtime may even help you sleep better? Being mindful about what you do and when could see you benefitting from a better night's sleep in a few short days.

Intrigued? We thought you might be! And so, we've rounded up some top tips to help you apply the very demure, very mindful concept to your night time regime. Read on to unveil all.

Treat yourself to new pyjamas!

What we wear can really affect how we feel in ourselves, and a great outfit can really increase our confidence. You may not realise it, but the same rule applies to your bed attire. Whether you sleep in full length button downs, a silk nightdress or an oversized t-shirt, throw out anything that’s had its day and treat yourself to something new! We often forget about the importance of what we wear to bed and throw on an old t-shirt we’ve had for years, but there are not many nicer feelings than falling into bed in new buttery soft pyjamas. So why not treat yourself once in a while? You deserve it!

Consider your sleeping habits

Are you someone who sleeps like a baby, won’t wake through a thunderstorm and has absolutely no idea what happens during the night? Or maybe you’re  someone who has recently entered a new relationship and is being hit with the harsh reality of the sleeping habits you never realised you had? Well, in the interest of being very demure, very mindful, now is a great time to speak to your partner to understand how your sleep may be affecting theirs and vice-versa.

Are you a quilt stealer? Using 2 single quilts as opposed to 1 double, king, or super-king quilt may work better for you.

Do you snore? Consider leaving a pair of earbuds on your partner’s bedside table. Showing your partner you respect their need for a good sleep will mean a great deal to them.

Keep the bedroom tidy

You know what they say, a tidy house means a tidy mind. I know myself that I struggle to settle my brain if I know the house isn’t clean and relatively tidy (as tidy as it can be with a vehicle obsessed near 2 year old anyway). And that increases tenfold if the bedroom is cluttered.

If your bedroom is causing you stress, take some time out of your day to slowly tidy, clean and relax-ify your space. For some, that may be tidying things you can see on the floor or the pile of clothes on that chair, but for others it may be that the thought of your messy drawers or wardrobes is causing you to stress.

Whilst tidying up, consider recycling, donating or selling some clothes you’ve not worn in a little while to make space. Not only will this free up some much needed room in a busy wardrobe, it’ll also make you feel good knowing your clothes are going to a home where they’re much more wanted!

Practice mindful herbal tea drinking

Practicing mindfulness is becoming a very common trend as people reap the benefits of what it means for them. A big part of why many people are turning to mindfulness is for calmness and clarity. Successful sleep requires a calm mind, and we sometimes forget that as humans our hormones and bodily systems can be relaxed by specific herbs.

Chamomile tea is a great calming product, and when combined with drinking mindfully, can help to enhance those feelings of relaxation before bed. Try to take slow, mindful sips of your tea. Focus on the taste and smell while feeling yourself slipping into a much more tranquil state of mind.

Write a goodnight note to yourself

We focus so much on self care in physical ways, prioritising our skin, our nails and the way we look to ourselves and others, but we often forget that we need to acknowledge our internal selves.

To some that is practicing gratitude and mindfulness, whether out loud or through a gratitude journal. Journals are great for writing your inner thoughts and feelings throughout the day and before bed is a great time to fill these in.

If you currently journal or if you’re new to this, try to wish today’s self goodnight with a note. Maybe you’ve had a great day and you want to tell yourself how proud you are of what you’ve achieved, or maybe your day wasn’t so good and you want to note down how that made you feel. Good days or bad days, a goodnight note can allow your mind to leave whatever happened that day behind, relax before sleep, and focus on the following day.

Guided mindfulness meditation

The most up and coming way of easing into meditation is through guided mindfulness meditation, aka being guided by an expert. This can take the form of in-person classes. Or you can , more suitable for bedtime, through videos or podcasts. If you struggle to drift off to sleep, this very mindful tip could be for you. This step by step method will support you in relaxing your mind and body into a calm state, easing all those modern day pressures that may be troubling you before bedtime. The key is to focus on breathing and visualization which, if you struggle with alone, is much easier to work on with the aid of a leader guiding you through the process. There are so many different variations that are tailored to us all, so whether you are just beginning and want to try a short 10-minute mindfulness video, or if you really think this is the tip for you and you’d like to work on guided mindfulness for general calmness throughout the day as well as bedtime, you can opt for a longer, more in depth guide.

Very demure, very mindful at bedtime: our final thoughts

The very demure, very mindful TikTok trend is one we’re all on-board with here at Bensons. It’s about being more mindful in life – and that very much extends to sleep. To embrace this mindset at bedtime, follow the top tips we’ve outlined above. And remember, above all else, be kind to yourself!

We’re a nation that is obsessed with the way we appear, focusing primarily on the exterior. Mental wellness is just as important if not more-so. And it just-so happens that our mental health is dependent on good sleep and vice-versa. So where better to start applying the very demure, very mindful trend to your life than in the bedroom? Give it a go today and see if these tips can transform your relationship with sleep into something that is much more mindful.